2017 has been a restless year for me. It’s been super-busy and fulfilling in a number of ways, but deep down there’s been a nagging doubt that I’m not doing all I can do and being all I can be, to make my dreams come true.
Now, don’t get me wrong – having dreams yet to be realised is a good thing, but only if you have a plan and are working steadily towards them. However, I have been so busy with the demands of my professional life that I have pushed some personal ambitions to the side, deferring them to some unknown future date. And yet, in my quietest moments, I wonder if a shortage of time has been the only factor in this conundrum.
My contemplation has been slow and tortuous, as I’ve found it difficult to tap into the deepest recesses of my subconscious mind – the vault that contains all my secrets. A classic personal development book, You Were Born Rich by Bob Proctor, has helped to bring my issues to the fore and, as a result, I’m working through them. I’m sharing these thoughts with you, in the hope that they will help you, as you set new goals for 2018. More importantly, I’m writing about them because I am desperate to help myself.
Tonight, as I prepared to write this, I saw a Facebook post by Sharon, a friend and former colleague, quoting me. She claimed that I had asked her a question years ago that she has never forgotten because of how much it challenged her to be her best self. The question was, “What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?” And, in that moment, all of my restless thoughts over the last few weeks came together and hit me like a bolt – fear of failure was at the root of my stalled dreams! The truth is that the dreams I have for the next stage of my life are so big that they scare me – the type of dreams that you never mention to anyone, except your closest confidants, because you haven’t even figured out the path towards them.
Reading Proctor’s book has reminded me of a few fundamentals that I will be using to guide me until I can see the way ahead more clearly. I hope you will find them useful on your journey.
- See yourself having/doing/being the thing you want
- Keep the image clearly in your mind and never let it go
- Expect that it will happen, no matter how long it takes
- Use daily affirmations to keep yourself focused, despite life’s distractions
- Persevere. Decide that you will not give up until you have what you desire
- Stop comparing yourself to others – you have a unique mixture of gifts that can’t be replicated
- Let go and let God – if you believe in a higher power or a perfect universe, all of the above, if followed, must bring your dream into reality
I’m deliberately ‘putting myself out there’ with this post, because I want it to be a clear (and very public) declaration that I’m ready to go after after those big dreams. And, yes, I’m scared – but no dream is truly worth realising if it’s not daunting. I hope you will find the courage to pursue whatever is your deepest desire for an amazing life. We’ll compare notes in 12 months.
Happy new year!
“Do not be held back by past failures. When the sun rises tomorrow, the light of the new day will illuminate an open door that beckons you to enter a new world called The Land of Beginning Again.” ~ from the book, ‘You Can Become the Person You Want To Be’ by Robert Schuller.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.” ~ Marianne Williamson